Don't be the initiator or the instigator
Don't keep calling that girlfriend who never calls back. She has other friends who aren't your friends.
On "getting older" versus the alternative, namely dying at the hands of fake friends who have no intention of allowing you to get any older.
Marlene Martin
It’s a quiet realization. //Not dramatic. Not explosive. No big falling out. //Just… silence.
These aren't friends, babe. We're actually in murder one territory with the silent treatment and the cold shoulder.
You stop texting first. //You stop organising the catch-ups. //You stop checking in. //And suddenly, nothing happens. //No one reaches out. No one follows up. No one notices. //That’s the moment that hits harder than loneliness itself. //Because it forces a different kind of question: //Was this ever a real friendship… or was I just maintaining it?
There's not anything else reasonable to do. You can't justify the effort to stay in contact with people who don't want to be contacted. We're not talking about friends. We're talking about people talking kindly and politely to your face in person if they talk at all, and then suddenly going to court trying to get restraining orders served on you without explanation. We're talking about small-town cops you once trusted shooting at you from back alleys and lying in wait to murder you off the beat.
Those people are your enemies, not friends, and you need to defend yourself, legally, financially, and physically from them and from the secret warfare they are waging against you behind your back.
They don't talk to you anymore on their own initiative? They don't say anything at all to you unless you question them directly? People you once thought you knew have SOMETHING TO HIDE from you all of a sudden.
It is time to go on the offensive, INVESTIGATE those people, find out what's up with their sudden shyness. What are they playing coy with in court while they attempt to murder you in cold blood outside of court?